The Problem with Determining Worth (and a Simple Exercise to Fix It)

ValueExerciseThe problem with determining worth is that we often don't have our own definition of value. We may ask ourselves, "What's it worth to me?" in regards to what we want; even when we ask ourselves that pointed question, we may not be able to come up with a viable answer.

Too often, what we value is wrapped up in external expectations. We value something because our families, social groups, churches and religions, and other communities value it, but we, ourselves, as individuals? We have some questions, objections, and other ideas.

The best way to determine if something is worth it to you is to devise a set of Personal Core Values, 3-5 qualities that you hold near and dear. These qualities are things that, if what you want doesn't fit in with those 3-5 qualities, you may want to reconsider.

I provide the full Personal Core Values exercise in Release & Refine, one of my Manuals for Audacious Living; for now, read on for an abbreviated version.

How to Discover Your Personal Core Values

Determining your Personal Core Values is, as many things related to living your Audacious Life, simple, but not easy.

It's simple to write down words that you think maybe, possibly, are the words by which you want to live your life. It's not easy, though, to actually come up with your own code.

The Personal Core Values exercise (Abbr) makes it easier.

1. Write down 10-15 words that embody values that you would like to have in your life

The words you choose should represent your aspirations, things you admire in other people, and other thoughts, feelings, and ideas that you want in your life. As an example, my Personal Core Values include fun, freedom, and love.

If you're having trouble coming up with 10-15 words, use an online thesaurus to help you. I also provide an extensive list in Module 4 of Release & Refine, and Barbara Stanny provides a lovely list in Sacred Success: A Course in Financial Miracles.

If you have the opposite problem—you have too many words that you want to embody, really think about why you want this value in your life. Is it coming from you, or are you getting some external interference from outside sources? (See: family, social groups, communities.)

2. Cross off any words that don't really get you excited

Some words may have sounded like a good idea at first, but when you reread them, they fall a little flat.

Get rid of them. They're not your Personal Core Values.

If you still have more than five words, continue to Step 3.

3. Compare and pinpoint

Select two values and ask yourself, "If I could only have one of these, which one would I prefer?" For the time being, you may not keep both of them; it's one of the other.

Take the winner of the first match, compare it to another value on your list, and ask yourself the same question. Again, you may not keep both of them.

Continue this process through all the values until you've discovered your Top Value.

Then, repeat until you've discovered Values #2-5.

What to Do Once You've Discovered Your Personal Core Values

Use your Personal Core Values as a litmus test as to what you do and do not want in your Audacious Life.

For example, let's assume that you were offered the opportunity to move to the United Kingdom to work for two years. The job would be intense—70- to 80-hour weeks—in a career field that you love and you could bring your family (if you have one).

If one of your Personal Core Values is success, and this opportunity directly contributes to your personal and/or professional success, then this opportunity may be worth it.

If one of your Personal Core Values is balance, and working 70- to 80-hour weeks throws off the balance that you've created in your life, then this opportunity may not be worth it.

Over to you

Do you have a set of Personal Core Values? What are they? Join the conversation here, or leave a comment below.